I’m losing the battle against Con Crud, so this will be a very brief post.
Month over month I have continued to set new traffic records to the blog. As time has passed, comment volume has increased and trolls have started to take over the conversation here – to the point where I get semi-regular emails from people who want to add to the conversation but who no longer feel that the comments here are a safe space to do so.
I want this to be a place where people feel they can have a productive conversation without worrying about being dogpiled or insulted by people whose only interest is to derail the conversation. I want this to be a place where people who have honest disagreements with what I write can come and discuss those disagreements in a civil manner, because I’ve never claimed that everything I post here is right. Nor will I claim that anyone who disagrees with me must be wrong. But most of all, I want this to be MY PLACE, which it hasn’t been for quite some time.
It’s not my place when I feel constantly challenged to assert my expertise on the matters I’m discussing, when I feel that I must always re-affirm my credentials.
It’s not my place when people come here to tell me that I’m crazy, ugly, irrational, stupid, ignorant, or a fascist.
It’s not my place when they tell me that harassment against women doesn’t matter.
It’s not my place when they tell me to lie down in front of a train rather than continue to speak out.
I can’t handle the volume of negative comments that I get anymore – it drains my energy, wastes my time, and sucks air out of the conversation. This was never intended to be a forum for other people to vent their hatred, and I’m tired letting toxic comments stifle real conversation in the name of welcoming free speech. Fuck free speech. This is not a democracy, and I am not obligated to give you a soapbox.
Starting now, you’re going to start seeing comments being deleted. If you insult me or another commenter, your comment will be deleted. If your comment reads straight from Anti-Feminist Bingo, your comment will be deleted. If your comment is intended to intentionally derail the conversation (and believe me, after 8 months I can spot ’em a mile away), your comment will be deleted. If any of this makes me a man-hating feminazi, here’s me not giving a shit.
I promise that next week I’ll set out some consistent guidelines about what will get a comment deleted; for right now I’m making this declaration so that I can enjoy my weekend and not think about the bullshit that’s been happening here this past week.
I tried to make this an open space where people who didn’t identify as feminists could have conversations with people who do identify as feminists. This being the internet, that didn’t work out so well. They say that insanity is repeating your actions and expecting a different result, so clearly it’s time to make a change.
There’s only so much time I’m willing to devote to this blog, so I don’t think I can turn this blog into a completely safe space. But I’ll be damned if I’m going to continue to tolerate the kind of bile that I’ve received in the last week. Anyone who wants to discuss things in a civil manner is welcome to stay. The rest of you can either clean up your act or get the fuck out.